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You can use these guidelines to improve your personal sexual health and well-being.

Positive Sexuality

Sexual well being covers much more more than birth control and infection screening.

People who practice and experience positive sexuality:

Appreciate and respect their sexuality and that of others

  • appreciate their own bodies and those of their partners (if they choose to have partnered sex)
  • enjoy sexual feelings without necessarily acting upon them
  • strive to understand the complexities of sexual and gender identities, orientations, and expressions
  • identify and understand their values as they evolve
  • decide what values fit for themselves and use these values in action
  • demonstrate acceptance for people with differing identities, values and experiences
  • understand the impact of culture, societal and media messages on thoughts, feelings, values, and behaviours related to sexuality
  • respect the rights of people to engage in and enjoy a full range of safe, consensual, non exploitative and pleasurable sexual behaviours

Communicate effectively in relationships

  • interact with others in appropriate and respectful ways
  • work together for equality in relationships
  • communicate with partners about sexual activity continuously
  • negotiate boundaries
  • discuss physical and emotional results (positive and negative) of sexual activity, safer sex methods, contraception (if desired and/or applicable), and meaning in the relationship(s)
  • practice and uphold intentional and meaningful consent in all partnered sexual activities
  • have opportunities to communicate desire not to have sex and have that accepted
  • are able to accept boundary setting and refusals to sex

Learn about sexual health

  • understand the benefits and risks of sexual activity
  • ask questions about sexual issues
  • seek further information about sexuality as needed
  • are aware of sexual health resources in their communities (like our ISHS clinics and programs!)

Take responsibility for sex safety and health

  • take responsibility for their own behavior and actions
  • take responsibility for their own bodies and experiences
  • communicate effectively with family, friends and health care professionals
  • practice health-promoting behaviors such as:
    •  regular check-ups,
    •  breast and/or testicular self awareness
    • if having  partnered sex:
      •  practicing safer sex to limit transmitting and/or contracting or transmitting a sexually transmitted infection
      •  practicing steps to limit unintentional pregnancies (if applicable)
      • sexually transmitted infection screening

Adapted from Canadian Sex Research Forum which was originally sourced from Hadsall and Associates.

Print Resources:

Check out our *new* reading list for adults! It has a great variety of books on sexuality, enhancing sexual experiences and sexual health. Most of the resources are available through your local book sellers or online.